Edited by Mikkel Hyldebrandt
The holiday season is a time to come together, reflect, and create memories that will last a lifetime. For the LGBTQ+ community, this time of year can be especially meaningful—and occasionally challenging. Whether you’re gathering with chosen family, reconnecting with relatives, or simply celebrating solo, there are ways to ensure your holidays are filled with love, joy, and relaxation. Here’s how to make the most of this special season while keeping it stress-free for everyone.
Build Traditions That Matter
Memories are built on the traditions we hold dear. Whether you’re hosting a cookie-decorating night, watching holiday classics with friends, or donning matching pajamas for a photo shoot, focus on activities that bring genuine joy. If your chosen family is your primary circle of support, consider starting new traditions together, like a queer-friendly Secret Santa or a holiday karaoke night featuring iconic LGBTQ+ anthems.
When reconnecting with family, embrace moments that strengthen bonds. Something as simple as sharing stories from your year, cooking family recipes together, or decorating the tree as a team can create a sense of togetherness that transcends any differences.
Keep It Relaxing
The holidays can easily tip into overwhelming territory, but you don’t have to let stress take over. Keep your plans realistic and avoid overcommitting. The beauty of the season lies in quality, not quantity. Schedule downtime where you can sip cocoa, light a candle, and recharge.
If hosting, remember it’s okay to keep things simple. Serve dishes you can prepare in advance, enlist guests to bring sides, or even consider a holiday potluck. The goal is to enjoy the people around you—not exhaust yourself playing host.
Navigate Political Differences with Grace
Holiday gatherings often bring together loved ones with differing political beliefs, which can feel like walking into a minefield. This year, consider setting a boundary: declare your space a “no politics” zone. Instead, encourage conversations that foster connection, like sharing childhood memories, discussing favorite holiday traditions, or planning group activities.
For LGBTQ+ individuals, being out and authentic during the holidays may mean facing challenging discussions with relatives. Pick your battles wisely. If a situation becomes too tense, gently excuse yourself or shift the topic to common ground. Healing happens when we allow space for mutual respect and understanding—even if it doesn’t happen overnight.
Create Moments of Reflection
Amid the hustle and bustle, take a moment to reflect on the year and set intentions for the new one. Consider writing holiday letters to people you love, expressing gratitude for the role they’ve played in your life. This small act can deepen your connections and help you feel centered in the season’s true spirit.
Additionally, carve out time to honor yourself. The holidays can sometimes stir up complicated emotions, especially if family gatherings are fraught or you’ve experienced loss. Treat yourself with kindness and prioritize self-care. A cozy night in with a good book or an uplifting movie can be just as meaningful as a packed social calendar.
Embrace Togetherness and Healing
At its heart, the holiday season is about unity. Despite differences, it’s a chance to reconnect and heal. For the LGBTQ+ community, this can mean fostering solidarity among chosen families, rekindling relationships with relatives, or simply creating a space where everyone feels seen and loved.
Remember, the greatest gift you can offer is your presence. Whether it’s through a heartfelt conversation, a shared laugh, or a warm hug, these moments are what will truly stand the test of time.
The Takeaway
The holidays don’t have to be perfect to be meaningful. By prioritizing joy, keeping stress at bay, and setting aside differences, you can create a season full of special memories. Whether you’re celebrating with chosen family, biological family, or by yourself, make it your own and let the magic unfold. Because at the end of the day, the holidays are about connection—and love in all its beautiful forms.