Edited by Mikkel Hyldebrandt
Whether you’re twirling through your 20s, strutting in your 30s, living your best 40s, or slaying into your 50s and beyond, one thing is universal: your health matters. And in the LGBTQ+ community—where style, self-expression, and connection often go hand-in-hand—staying in top shape physically, mentally, and yes, aesthetically, is more than vanity. It’s about longevity, resilience, and loving the body (and mind) you’re in.
Here’s your decade-by-decade guide to looking good, feeling great, and thriving at every stage of gay life.
Your 20s: Building the Foundation
Your 20s are often a time of discovery—of your identity, your career, your chosen family, and sometimes your go-to drag brunch spot. It’s also when you can set habits that will carry you for life.
Skincare:
- Start SPF now. Sunscreen isn’t just for Fire Island weekends—it’s your year-round anti-aging secret weapon.
- Keep it simple. A gentle cleanser, moisturizer, and SPF are your holy trinity. Introduce a vitamin C serum if you’re feeling extra.
Physical Health:
- Make fitness a habit. Whether it’s the gym, swimming, dancing, or aerial silks, find movement you enjoy. Your metabolism is fast now—use it to build strength and stamina.
- Don’t skip check-ups. Get tested regularly for STIs, including HIV. Talk to your doctor about PrEP if it’s right for you.
Mental Health:
- Seek balance. Partying is fun, but don’t underestimate rest and recovery.
- Build your support network. Friends who celebrate you—and call you out when needed—are priceless.
Your 30s: Refining the Routine
Your 30s often bring more stability—but also more responsibilities. Stress can creep in, metabolism can slow, and your skin might start whispering, “Hey, remember your 20s?”
Skincare:
- Upgrade your regimen. Introduce retinol to boost cell turnover and fight early fine lines.
- Moisturize like it’s your job. Hydration keeps skin plump and glowing.
Physical Health:
- Prioritize strength training. Muscle mass naturally starts to decline, so resistance workouts help keep you toned and boost metabolism.
- Watch your numbers. Keep tabs on cholesterol, blood pressure, and blood sugar—these metrics start to matter more.
Mental Health:
- Manage stress proactively. Yoga, therapy, or even a solid group chat can help.
- Stay connected to joy. Hobbies, creative outlets, and travel keep life feeling vibrant.
Your 40s: Longevity Mode Activated
In your 40s, you’ve got life experience, confidence, and maybe a bit of wisdom. This is when investing in your health really pays dividends.
Skincare:
- Double down on treatments. Professional facials, chemical peels, or even light resurfacing treatments can help with texture and sun damage.
- Neck and hands matter. Extend your skincare beyond your face—these areas show age quickly.
Physical Health:
- Cardio + strength = gold. Heart health becomes more important, so pair resistance training with regular aerobic exercise.
- Flexibility & mobility. Yoga, Pilates, or stretching help prevent injuries and keep you moving freely.
Mental Health:
- Check your mindset. Midlife isn’t a crisis—it’s an opportunity to deepen relationships and pursue passions.
- Community counts. Mentor younger queer folks, volunteer, or get involved in causes you care about.
Your 50s & Beyond: Thriving, Not Just Surviving
By your 50s, you know yourself—and hopefully love yourself—better than ever. The focus now is on vitality, prevention, and celebrating the body you’ve lived in all these years.
Skincare:
- Stay consistent. Hydration, sun protection, and targeted treatments (like peptides) keep skin healthy and luminous.
- Go professional if you want. There’s no shame in Botox, fillers, or other cosmetic options—just work with a qualified pro who understands subtlety.
Physical Health:
- Keep moving daily. Low-impact cardio (swimming, walking, cycling) supports joints while keeping the heart strong.
- Bone health matters. Weight-bearing exercises and calcium-rich foods are your allies.
Mental Health:
- Guard against isolation. Social connections are as important for longevity as diet and exercise.
- Embrace the joy of mentorship. Sharing your experiences can be life-changing for someone else—and for you.
Health Is Sexy
Across all ages, three truths remain:
- Sleep is sacred. It’s the unsung hero of good skin, a strong immune system, and a sharp mind.
- Nutrition fuels everything. A colorful, balanced diet (yes, with the occasional pizza) supports every system in your body.
- Pride is powerful. Loving yourself, celebrating your community, and showing up authentically may be the most potent health booster of all.
Your health journey doesn’t have to be perfect—it just has to be yours. Whether you’re just starting to figure out your skincare routine, upping your gym game, or redefining what self-care means in your life, remember: being gay isn’t just about surviving—it’s about thriving, dancing, loving, and living fully at every age.