Edited by Mikkel Hyldebrandt
In a world that often prioritizes coupledom, being single can sometimes feel like a status to “fix” rather than celebrate. But let’s be real—living your best life doesn’t require a plus-one. Whether you’re single by choice or circumstance, this is your time to shine, explore, and cultivate joy in ways that are entirely your own. Here’s how to make the most of your solo era while embracing everything life (and the LGBTQ+ community) has to offer.

1. Build Your Chosen Family
One of the greatest gifts of being LGBTQ+ is our ability to define family on our own terms. Whether it’s a tight-knit group of friends, a queer community center, or even online spaces where you feel seen, invest in relationships that uplift and support you. These connections will be your foundation for love, laughter, and those much-needed reality checks.
2. Romance Yourself
Who says romantic gestures are reserved for couples? Buy yourself flowers, plan a dream vacation, cook a candlelit dinner for one—whatever makes you feel special. Self-love isn’t just a buzzword; it’s a necessity. Treat yourself the way you’d want a partner to treat you, and you’ll quickly realize that you are enough.
3. Pursue Your Passions
When you’re single, you have the luxury of making every decision based entirely on what excites you. Take up dance lessons, learn a new language, train for that marathon, or dive into LGBTQ+ activism. Exploring your interests is a powerful way to cultivate confidence and build a life that feels uniquely yours.
4. Make Your Space a Sanctuary
Your home should be your happy place. Create a space that reflects your personality and brings you joy. Whether that’s decorating with pride flags, curating the ultimate playlist for solo dance parties, or investing in a ridiculously comfy couch, make your home a place where you feel safe, inspired, and authentically yourself.
5. Date—If You Want To
Being single doesn’t mean you have to swear off dating altogether. If romance is something you crave, explore it in a way that aligns with your happiness. Try casual dating, flirting at queer events, or diving into the world of polyamory if that speaks to you. The key is to date on your terms without pressure to “settle down” if that’s not your goal.
6. Travel Without Limits
Solo travel is a game-changer. You set the itinerary, eat where you want, and experience places through your own lens. Whether it’s a weekend in a gay-friendly city or a solo backpacking adventure, traveling alone can be empowering, exhilarating, and a perfect reminder that your happiness isn’t tied to anyone else.
7. Prioritize Your Well-Being
Being single gives you the space to focus on your mental and physical health without outside distractions. Set fitness goals, explore therapy, take up meditation, or simply commit to getting enough sleep. A healthy relationship with yourself is the most important one you’ll ever have.
8. Find Joy in LGBTQ+ Spaces
From drag brunches to queer dance floors to LGBTQ+ sports leagues, there are endless ways to engage with your community. Whether you’re an extrovert who thrives at big events or an introvert who prefers one-on-one connections, being involved in queer spaces can help reinforce that you’re never truly alone.
9. Celebrate Your Independence
Many people in relationships crave the freedom that single life provides—so embrace it! You can move cities, switch careers, or decide to stay in and binge-watch an entire series without consulting anyone. Your life is yours to design, and that’s a beautiful thing.
10. Remember: You Are Whole on Your Own
Being single isn’t a waiting room for love—it’s a full, vibrant chapter of life in itself. Whether it lasts a few months or a lifetime, being single is a gift that allows you to explore, grow, and create a life that’s fulfilling on your own terms. You don’t need a partner to complete you—you are already whole.
So go forth, fabulous and free! The world is yours to enjoy, no plus-one required.