My boyfriend of many years has expressed an interest in engaging in pup play, and the other day he even brought home a puppy hood that he wants to wear. Quite honestly, I am a little freaked out by the whole thing and don’t know how to handle it–or him! I’m afraid even to ask him what he wants from me. How do I deal with this fetish? And what if I don’t want to?


A fetish can be challenging to understand, so the first step is to start talking! Get over your fear of talking to your boyfriend and start by asking him about what the appeal is to him. Try to approach it with a non-judgmental mindset and don’t react negatively when he tries to explain why he has this fetish. You are naturally also allowed to express your apprehension to him, but again don’t label anything negatively and try to understand each other’s perspectives. If you love him, you’ll put in the effort to understand him, and if he loves you, he will never force you to do anything you don’t want to do. But there is nothing wrong with broadening your horizons and learning more about each other, so start communicating. Who knows, maybe you’ll learn to appreciate certain aspects of pup play, and it will become another extension of your relationship